Weekend Message Takeaway: “Keeping Vows”

This past weekend, we continued our study through the Sermon on the Mount as Pastor Doug explored Matthew 5:27–37. In this message, we discovered that honoring our vows honors the Lord, how love keeps its promises, and why lust is a counterfeit, a knock-off of something much better and truly fulfilling.

Watch the video below to see a few highlights from the teaching and share it with your friends via social media. To watch the message in its entirety, click here.


Let’s recap some of the key talking points from Pastor Doug's teaching this weekend:

Love Keeps Its Promises (Matthew 5:27–37): Why is marriage restricted? Why all the rules? The world will tell you that love should have no rules, no boundaries. It will shout, “Love is love.” But the love being touted by the world doesn’t last. Why? Because it's simply about pleasure, gratification, and self. Marriage as God designed and defined it is protected by a vow to one’s spouse and to God. It’s a sacred and fragile bond that only truly works when you don’t make it about you. 

Lust Is a Counterfeit: Putting it as plainly and succinctly as possible, lust is a sexual desire that dishonors its object and disregards God. Lust is born in the realm of thought, imagination, and desire that leads to sexual misconduct. It possesses the mind and enslaves the heart. God’s will is that we abstain from sexual immorality; that we control our mind and body in holiness and honor—not in the passion of lust—through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Please know that sexual desire is not a bad thing. It’s a good thing. God made it; it has its proper place as a healthy expression of the marriage covenant. When expressed as God designed, it honors God and your spouse; it is guilt-free, enjoyable, and life giving. But it was made to be governed . . . not to govern you. But when sexual desire is twisted and perverted into lust, it dishonors its object and disregards God.

Keeping Your Vow Honors God and Protects You (Matthew 5:31–32): Fight the good fight of faith; train yourself to be godly. Learn to fight, to create boundaries, and to run/flee. Be honest with yourself and surround yourself with trusted, God-honoring, mature people you can confess to and help keep you accountable. Take preventative measures by cutting yourself off from whatever you need to. Put every possible safeguard in place to protect your vow and abstain from sexual immorality of any kind. And most importantly, become saturated in His Word, His truth, and His love. Find fulfillment and satisfaction in Christ and the things of God. Take up your cross daily, follow Him, and live to please Him. Why? Because while lust may be stronger than you, it’s not stronger than Jesus. So overcome it, honor the Lord, and protect yourself—and your vow—by immersing yourself in Jesus. 

Quote to Remember: Marriage doesn’t have to be perfect to be great.—Pastor Doug Sauder

Satan has launched an all-out assault on marriage. He has saturated us with all manner of temptation and polluted our culture with destructive traps. He’s done so through the devaluation of marriage, the normalization of sexualizing people, and the infiltration of habits. The advent of porn in the technological age is destroying the mind, desensitizing us to sex and violence, killing love, ruining marriages, and destroying families. If you're struggling with pornography and need help, guidance, encouragement, and accountability, please visit MySafeGroup.com.

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Gather with us on Wednesday as we continue our "Character Study” series with a message about keeping vows.

This weekend, Pastor Chris Baselice of our Plantation campus will join us as we study Matthew 5:38–6:18. Come discover the importance of giving, praying, and fasting in the life of the believer. 

About the Author

Danny Saavedra

Danny Saavedra has served on the staff of Calvary since 2012, managing the Calvary Devotional and digital discipleship resources. He has a Master of Arts in Pastoral Counseling and Master of Divinity in Pastoral Ministry from Liberty Theological Seminary. His wife Stephanie, son Jude, and daughter Zoe share a love of Star Wars, good food, having friends over for dinner, and studying the Word together as a family.