The Perfect Ingredient

“And above all things have fervent love for one another, for ‘love will cover a multitude of sins.’”—1 Peter 4:8 (NKJV)

There’s no way around it, as long as people are people, there’s going to be conflict. People are imperfect by nature, and it’s inevitable that our imperfections are going to cause conflict. We see this played out in the real world in every institution comprised of human beings.

Marriage is no exception. In fact, marriage can be a crucible of conflict because you have two imperfect people dwelling in close, prolonged proximity. They can’t escape from the office; at the end of the day, they’re still there with each other, and so is any unresolved conflict.

Now, this brief devotion isn’t going to cure marital conflict for everyone who reads it (much less the one who wrote it). However, it does contain a key . . . a key that can set a couple free from the chains of conflict weighing heavy on their marriage.

Marriage consists of two imperfect people, but God wants to place something perfect in between them: His love. Not the type of “love” the world around us mistakes for lust, but the sort of love that can only emanate from God. It’s the undeserved, unconditional, and unrelenting favor towards all.

God’s love is the perfect ingredient in a marriage between imperfect people. When His love actively flows between a husband and wife, it puts out the fires that threaten to burn down the bridge between them. It fills them with forgiveness and perspective greater than their strife. Love, God’s love, always improves the situation and brings hope to where there wasn’t any.

“Sounds great, but you’re describing something that I just don’t have!” You’re right! None of us possesses God’s love in and of ourselves. We can’t manufacture God’s love within ourselves any more than a lump of coal can produce a symphony. It’s just not in our nature.

But, it is something that God can and does bestow on us! Romans 5:5 tells us that the Holy Spirit pours out this precious heavenly commodity upon our hearts, which we then experience and extend outwardly to those we could never forgive otherwise.  It’s not in us, but it’s on us, thanks to the Lord!

Every marriage will be flawed. Conflict will occur and forgiveness will be needed. Yet there’s an unending supply of God’s perfect love that will cover any sin or cause for conflict.

DIG: Why is conflict inevitable?

DISCOVER: What is the remedy for conflict?

DISPLAY: How active is God’s love in your relationships?

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About the Author

Pastor Dan Hickling

Pastor Dan Hickling serves our online community, also known as the Calvary Chapel Online Campus. He and his wife Becky have been married for 22 years and have two children, Lauren and Danny. Both Dan and Becky have been part of the CCFL church family for 22 years and have served in full time ministry for 20 of those years.