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November 28, 2021 | Ed Stetzer
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“I will bless those who have humble and contrite hearts, who tremble at my word.”— Isaiah 66:2 (NLT)
If you run a Google search on attractive qualities, you will find some interesting results. According to ThoughtCatalog.com, women are more likely to find men attractive when they have bold confidence, a willingness to call women on the phone, and are good dressers, handy, protective, and chivalrous. And on the flip side, TheRichest.com has a list of what men find most attractive in women. They say men are most attracted to women who wear red lipstick, laugh at a man’s jokes, and have a high-pitched voice, big eyes, and long arms—yes, you read that right.
If you notice, humility was nowhere to be found on either of these lists. What’s interesting about this is that humility is one of the most important qualities to the Lord. In his book, Humility, Andrew Murray wrote, “The highest glory of the creature is in being only a vessel, to receive and enjoy and show forth the glory of God. It can do this only as it is willing to be nothing in itself, that God may be all. Water always fills first the lowest places. The lower, the emptier a man lies before God, the speedier and the fuller will be the inflow of the divine glory.”
In Proverbs, we read that the Lord blesses the humble. The word we translate as humble is the Hebrew word ani, which means poor or lowly. It reminds me of what Jesus says in Matthew 5:3 (NIV): “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”
So, if you’re wondering what, above all else, will make you attractive to a godly partner, look no further than humility: more of God, less of yourself. You will never look, sound, and be more attractive than when you empty yourself of yourself and allow yourself to be filled by God. There is no other quality or trait you should strive more towards than this. And if you’re a single person looking for a spouse, make sure humility is at the top of your list.
So, ask yourself: Are you living out humility? Have you decreased so that He may increase? When you evaluate potential relationships, how high on your list is humility?
DIG: Using a Bible reference site, do a word search for wisdom.
DISCOVER: How can you apply what you find in your search to your marriage or to a significant relationship?
DO: If you’re married, sit with your spouse today and pray for the Lord’s wisdom upon your marriage. If you’re single, pray that the Lord will pour His wisdom into you as you seek to build your foundation firmly upon Him.
Danny Saavedra is a licensed minister who has served on staff at Calvary since 2012, managing the Calvary Devotional and digital discipleship resources. He has a Master of Arts in Pastoral Counseling and Master of Divinity in Pastoral Ministry from Liberty Theological Seminary. His wife Stephanie, son Jude, and daughter Zoe share a love of Star Wars, good food, having friends over for dinner, and studying the Word together as a family.