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October 17, 2021 | Doug Sauder
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Sometimes you’ll go through weird seasons in your marriage. Seasons where one or both of you feel lost. Seasons where you want to choose complacency instead of intentionality. Seasons where you feel like you’re just going through the motions. Seasons where you feel like you’re not only on different pages but also in totally different books.
My husband is my best friend, and he would say I am his. We love spending time together, whether that’s exploring a new city or sitting on our couch watching the latest Pixar movie. And I’m not too proud to admit he’s the fun one. He brings an insurmountable amount of joy to our home and helps me not to take life too seriously. God has lavishly poured out His grace in our lives and opened up opportunities in which we get to share a lot of our life together serving side-by-side.
But he and I arrived at our second-year wedding anniversary for a romantic weekend on the beach and felt like strangers living out a practiced routine. Luxurious hotel? Check. New outfits? Check. Dinner reservations? Check. But we sat across the table from one another with few words to say.
We came home with heavy but awakened hearts. How did we get here? What went wrong? How were we spending our time? On the outside, it was a fruitful year, but for several months underneath the ground, the roots—our foundation—was neglected and not taken care of. Somehow in our “ministry,” we stopped doing life face-to-face with a fervent intentionality.
Have you ever been here before? It’s easy to let our responsibilities and routine overthrow the time we spend with our spouse . . . to walk side-by-side as roommates with a checklist instead of knowing and being known. So, how can we discern the difference between what’s good and what’s God’s best in the way we spend our time?
Here are some ideas that can help purpose and prioritize your marriage:
Last night my husband and I stayed up talking and laughing until 1am (that is VERY late for this grandma). This isn’t the norm by any means, but we had to force ourselves to kiss each other goodnight and go to sleep. A few months ago, we were barely talking for an hour over dinner.
You know, we didn’t wake up one day with all our priorities and time management figured out. And let me tell you, life didn’t stop being crazy and chaotic either. In fact, the past few months have been one of the busiest seasons of our marriage. It didn’t happen after one conversation and it probably won’t after 100—but make it a habit to talk about it and talk often. Give yourselves permission to speak into each other’s lives and regularly evaluate (and adjust) how you’re prioritizing your relationship with each other (but more importantly, the Lord) in your marriage.
Date Night Ideas for May
Challenge 1: Dreams ListCarve out some time to talk about your dreams for the future and write a list of things you want to do together as a couple.
Challenge 2: CD Hunt DateHead to the store and each of you pick out a CD. Then go for an afternoon drive and listen to the music you bought!
Challenge 3: Up, Up and Away!Looking for a real adventure? How about going up, up and away in a beautiful hot air balloon! Or how about going sky diving? Look up both indoor and outdoor experiences and pick one!
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